Rewriting Your Post-Divorce Storyline in 7 Simple Shifts with Deb Purdy
It is easy to get attached to your victim story and blame your ex for the fact that your marriage went up in flames. But there is a better way to approach divorce: It is possible to see it as a new beginning, an opportunity to learn about yourself and reinvent your life. So, how exactly do you learn to shift your thinking and rewrite your post-divorce storyline?
Deb Purdy is a transformational coach, speaker, author and workshop leader. She is also the creator of My Divorce Recovery Kit and the author of Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce. In the book, Deb shares the process she employed to successfully transition out of her own 10-year marriage and eventually create a collaborative co-parenting relationship with her ex-husband.
Today, Deb sits down with Katherine to share the 7 shifts that helped her see divorce as a new beginning and thrive in its aftermath. She walks us through her transformation from feeling like a victim to taking ownership of her life and explains how she used the experience as an opportunity for personal growth. Listen in for Deb’s insight around rewriting your destructive post-divorce storyline and learn how to choose gratitude—and revisit it every day!
Deb’s realization that her divorce could signal a new beginning
Deb’s transformation from feeling victimized to taking ownership
The 7 shifts Deb leveraged to gain strength from her divorce
- Foundational shift
- Shift intentions
- Shift your story
- Shift view of ex
- Shift conversation
- Kids are shifters too
- Shift on
How to use divorce to identify how you show up in relationships
The value in rewriting your destructive post-divorce storyline
The challenge of teaching your friends and family how to support you
Deb’s vision of what she wanted her relationship with her ex to look like
Deb’s insight around setting the intention to learn about yourself
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The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller
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