Responding to Conflict with Self-Compassion and Mindful Communication with Jen Dorf
If you’re in the middle of a hostile divorce, the very idea of having compassion for your former partner may be difficult to fathom. But what if you started with compassion for yourself? Holistic health coach Jen Dorf maintains that you can escape the conflict trap with a mindful approach to communication that models the way you want to be treated.
Based in Mamaroneck, New York, Jen is a nutrition and wellness coach with an expertise in mindful communication. She inspires clients to create daily sustainable habits that will revive their energy and power from within by bringing awareness to how they eat, move, rest and relate—to themselves and others. Jen trained at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition in Manhattan, and she is accredited by The American Association of Drugless Practitioners.
Jen sits down with Katherine to discuss the fundamentals of mindful communication. She explains how to use mindfulness to identify your patterns and triggers and shift your goals from being right to being happy. Jen speaks to the power of self-compassion, describing how loving kindness for yourself facilitates empathy for others. Listen in for Jen’s insight around the connection between food and mood and her approach to communicating in moments of conflict.
Why self-compassion is the first step to mindful communication
- Pause, breathe
- Calm nervous system
Getting comfortable with silence
How mindfulness brings awareness to patterns, triggers
Why the stories you tell yourself may not be true
The value in modeling the behavior you want for yourself
How loving kindness toward yourself facilitates healing
Jen’s approach to responding in moments of conflict
- Practice empathy, curiosity
- Focus on well-being of children
The connection between food and mood
The importance of self-care
How to shift your focus from being right to being happy
The myth that compassion makes you weak