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Responding to Conflict with Self-Compassion and Mindful Communication with Jen Dorf

If you’re in the middle of a hostile divorce, the very idea of having compassion for your former partner may be difficult to fathom. But what if you started with compassion for yourself? Holistic health coach Jen Dorf maintains that you can escape the conflict trap with a mindful approach to communication that models the way you want to be treated.

Based in Mamaroneck, New York, Jen is a nutrition and wellness coach with an expertise in mindful communication. She inspires clients to create daily sustainable habits that will revive their energy and power from within by bringing awareness to how they eat, move, rest and relate—to themselves and others. Jen trained at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition in Manhattan, and she is accredited by The American Association of Drugless Practitioners.

Jen sits down with Katherine to discuss the fundamentals of mindful communication. She explains how to use mindfulness to identify your patterns and triggers and shift your goals from being right to being happy. Jen speaks to the power of self-compassion, describing how loving kindness for yourself facilitates empathy for others. Listen in for Jen’s insight around the connection between food and mood and her approach to communicating in moments of conflict.


Why self-compassion is the first step to mindful communication

  • Pause, breathe
  • Calm nervous system

Getting comfortable with silence

How mindfulness brings awareness to patterns, triggers

Why the stories you tell yourself may not be true

The value in modeling the behavior you want for yourself

How loving kindness toward yourself facilitates healing

Jen’s approach to responding in moments of conflict

  • Practice empathy, curiosity
  • Focus on well-being of children

The connection between food and mood

The importance of self-care

How to shift your focus from being right to being happy

The myth that compassion makes you weak


Jen’s Website


The Self-Compassion Skills Workbook: A 14-Day Plan to Transform Your Relationship with Yourself by Tim Desmond

Brené Brown


The Center for Understanding Conflict
Miller Law Group
Katherine on LinkedIn