Resolve Post-divorce Conflict With Mediation with Erik Wheeler
Even if you craft the perfect divorce agreement, disputes still arise post-divorce. As circumstances change, conflicts come up. So, what should you do when you and your ex disagree? How might you leverage mediation to resolve those conflicts with less frustration and resentment?
Erik Wheeler is the Founder and Family Mediator at Accord Mediation, a practice out of Burlington, Vermont, that specializes in divorce and post-divorce mediation. Erik uses conflict resolution and divorce mediation to help couples navigate disagreements around parenting schedules, custody and finances. Erik is also the co-creator of Divorce Peacefully, a webinar designed to educate divorcing couples about the alternatives to litigation—mediation and collaborative divorce.
On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Erik joins Katherine to discuss the most common conflicts that come up after a divorce, explaining why it’s crucial to get granular on the details of your parenting agreement. He describes how a mediator can help facilitate difficult discussions and shares his approach to resolving conflicts like who will claim the children on their taxes and how to split your kid’s expenses. Listen in for Erik’s insight on the challenges that come up when one parent relocates and learn how mediation can help you and your ex find solutions that work well for your family’s future.
Erik’s insight on the kinds of conflict that come up after a divorce
Why it’s crucial for divorcing couples to get specific on the details of their parenting agreement
How the introduction of new partners can exacerbate conflict in divorced couples
How a mediator helps facilitate difficult discussions by focusing on interests vs. positions
What makes mediation a better option than litigation in finding solutions that work well for your family
How to resolve conflicts around who will claim the children on taxes
The challenges that come up when one parent relocates
Erik’s approach to conflicts around splitting your kid’s expenses (including tuition)
Why Erik suggests going to mediation as soon as a conflict arises
CONNECT WITH ERIK WHEELER
Call (802) 391-4121
CONNECT WITH KATHERINE MILLER
The Center for Understanding Conflict
The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller
Call (914) 738-7765
Erik’s Divorce Peacefully Webinar