Is there a way to protect your child’s innocence during the divorce process? What strategies can you use to parent well in the midst of such a difficult time? The Intelligent Divorce offers couples an approach to separation and divorce that prevents damage to kids and teaches you how to create a bi-nuclear family built on kindness and respect.
Dr. Mark Banschick is a child psychiatrist in private practice in New York and a frequent expert witness in custody hearings. He coined the idea of the Intelligent Divorce and authored two books on the subject, The Intelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Children and The Intelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Yourself. Dr. Banschick has appeared on The CBS Early Show and the CBS Morning News, and he is published regularly in Psychology Today and the Huffington Post.
Today, Dr. Banschick joins Katherine to explain how the Intelligent Divorce prevents damage to kids during the divorce process. He offers his take on divorce as a public health issue rather than a legal one and discusses the significance of establishing what he calls an intergenerational boundary. Dr. Banschick walks us through The Child’s Bill of Rights, describing how the Intelligent Divorce protects their innocence and educates kids in the process of conflict resolution. Listen in for insight around the difference between jealousy and envy—and hear Dr. Banschick’s thoughts on when and how to tell your kids you are getting a divorce.
How Dr. Banschick’s work led to the Intelligent Divorce
Dr. Banschick’s advice around working on your marriage first
The idea of a bi-nuclear family built on kindness and respect
Why Dr. Banschick sees divorce as a public health issue
How to protect your child’s innocence in the divorce process
The significance of establishing an intergenerational boundary
The Child’s Bill of Rights
How people regress during the divorce process
How Intelligent Divorce educates kids in conflict resolution
Melanie Kline’s distinction between jealousy and envy
The benefits of working with a good psychotherapist
When and how to tell your kids that you are getting a divorce
Intelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Children by Mark R. Banschick and David Tabatsky
Intelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Children by Mark R. Banschick and David Tabatsky
The Center for Understanding Conflict
The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller
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