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How to Divorce a Narcissist & Get Your Power Back with Lisa Cheatham

The early stages of a relationship with a narcissist feel perfect. They are charming and charismatic and make you feel like you’re a part of something bigger than yourself. But when something seems too good to be true, it usually is. And without fail, being with a narcissist evolves into a situation where you’re always trying to please and everything is your fault. So, how do you take the first steps to leave a narcissist? And how do you take care of yourself in the divorce process?

Lisa Cheatham is a Transformational Life Coach who works with high-achieving women recovering from toxic relationships. She is on a mission to inspire and empower women transitioning through divorce, helping them step into their power and get their life back. Lisa leverages her personal experience with narcissistic abuse to support others in cultivating the confidence and unshakable self-love necessary to move forward and rebuild their lives.

On this episode, Lisa joins Katherine to explain what a relationship with a narcissist looks like and share the characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. She describes how a relationship with a narcissist changes over time, why it takes longer to recover from a breakup with a narcissist, and how a narcissist’s lack of empathy presents in the divorce process. Listen in for insight on maintaining a positive relationship with your kids when they’re being manipulated by your ex and learn how to navigate the difficult process of divorcing a narcissist.


How to know if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist

The characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder

  • Need constant attention and praise
  • Sense of self-importance and entitlement
  • Lack empathy and view people as objects

How a relationship with a narcissist changes over time

How narcissists exercise control over their partners

How long it takes to recover from a breakup with a narcissist

How a narcissist will do anything to save face in divorce

The challenges around coparenting with a narcissist

How to deal with the process of divorcing a narcissist

  • Develop self-care regimen
  • Set firm and loving boundaries
  • Foster forgiveness
  • Block as much contact as possible

Lisa’s personal experience being married to a narcissist

What to do when your kids are being manipulated

Setting up a support system when you leave a narcissist


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Email lisax4b@gmail.com


The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

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The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

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