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A Non-Toxic Approach to Divorce with Gabrielle Hartley

Divorce is a difficult, painful process. But at the end of the day, people pursue divorce because they want to be happier and improve their lives. The experience CAN afford you the opportunity to look inward, rediscover yourself and architect a better future—if you approach divorce in a mindful, non-toxic way.

Gabrielle Hartley is committed to helping couples divorce with dignity and ease. Gabrielle has 20-plus years of experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, and in that time, she has developed a unique approach to the process that supports clients in designing a healthy post-divorce life. Gabrielle is also the coauthor of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate.

Today, Gabrielle joins Katherine to share the philosophy behind Better Apart and offer insight around her intention to help divorcing couples gain clarity. She describes several practical strategies you can use to remain mindful and practice active self-care during the divorce process and discusses how to choose an attorney that will represent you in a way you can be proud of. Listen in for Gabrielle’s advice around responding rather than reacting to the conflict dynamic and learn how to leverage divorce as an opportunity to remap your future!


The philosophy behind Gabrielle’s new book,  Better Apart

Gabrielle’s intention to help divorcing couples gain clarity

How Gabrielle encourages clients to be kind to themselves

The 5 lenses Gabrielle uses to help people navigate divorce

How to train your mind with a positive affirmation journal

How listening to your inner voice is part of active self-care

Surrounding yourself with people who let you be happy

The danger in overgeneralizing other’s stories of divorce

Gabrielle’s advice on choosing the right divorce attorney

How divorce affords an opportunity to remap your future

The value of giving yourself something to look forward to

Gabrielle’s strategies for responding rather than reacting


Gabrielle’s Website


Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate by Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower


The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com

Call (914) 738-7765